WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU ARE IN EXTREME EMOTIONAL PAIN (part I)

TOUCH YOUR HEART MINISTRIES

"Touching Your Heart With the Love of God
Changing Your Life With The Word of God"-John 6:63

I was on my way to work this morning, my eyes flooded with tears and my heart broken in what felt like a thousand pieces. I had been crying most of the night and calling unto Jesus until sleep came. Once I woke up, my mind wasted no time in reminding me of the pain I was in before I fell asleep.





Once I got in my car, dropped my daughter off to her school bus stop and was on my way to work, I immediately began looking for comfort by way of ministry through a Christian radio station,1500 AM. Not knowing what to expect from the subject that might be in discussion, I turned the radio on, I noticed that my husband who had driven our vehicle home from church the night before had been listening to the cd player. Because he loves to worship while driving, I pushed play and turned the volume up. What I heard caused me to I break out in a loud sob as the music now coming from the radio was God's very plan to touch me with His own hands through CeCe Winans as she ministered the song from her Purified CD;

"He's Concerned about You"

So that you understand the impact it had on me and where I was at in my pain, some of her the words to this song go like this:

"God is, just a prayer away All you need to do is call He will hear, your faintest cry He’s concerned about you So while your tears are flowing through Your time of mourning He is here to lift your heavy heart 'Cause He’s in love with you ...



He knows He cares He sees He’s there And He’ll carry you He’s concerned about you..."

The Lord knew that I needed HIM and the Comforter touched my heart to let me know, I may feel weak and defeated, but HE's carrying me.

Extreme pain can come from many different sources such as an insult, betrayal, abuse, dangerous and terrifying events. Your natural reaction at that very moment is most likely to be out of your control, unless you've been practising self control for a while. source

The inability to convey your hurt, or having your hurt misunderstood by those around you tends to compound the pain.

Emotional pain stems from the way we were shaped, our mindset, our life experiences, how we were raised, low self-esteem, pride (which tries to cover insecurities), etc. One thing about emotional pain, it will be we will all feel it at some point and time in our lives, unfortunately there are those of us who feel they have had more than a lifetime's share of it.

Despite how bad it hurts, there is always something we can learn from it. Sometimes we miss the lesson because we are in such a hurry for the pain to stop. Remember even Jesus, though He was a Son, "learned" obedience from the things HE "suffered" (Hebrews 5:8 NKJV).




From The Contemporary English Versions:

7) God had the power to save Jesus from death. And while Jesus was on earth, he begged God with loud crying and tears to save him. He truly worshiped God, and God listened to his prayers. 8) Jesus is God's own Son, but still he had to suffer before he could learn what it really means to obey God.




The Message Bibles reads:


7-8) While he lived on earth, anticipating death, Jesus cried out in pain and wept in sorrow as he offered up priestly prayers to God. Because he honored God, God answered him. Though he was God's Son, he learned trusting-obedience by what he suffered, just as we do.


The last thing I read last night before laying down was:

"Psalm 24:7Lift up your heads, O you gates!And be lifted up, you everlasting doors! And the King of glory shall come in"

You know, try as I might, I couldn't lift the heaviness.

We have no power in and of ourselves to battle the things that are to big for us, we only have God's strength in our weakness which helps us get through the day, and helps us get through the pain. But the Word of God says in:


2 Corinthians 12:9 (Amplified Bible)

9 But He said to me, My grace (My favor and loving-kindness and mercy) is enough for you [sufficient against any danger and enables you to bear the trouble manfully]; for My strength and power are made perfect (fulfilled and completed) and [a]show themselves most effective in [your] weakness.

When we call on Jesus, all things are possible, for it is in HIS Word and by HIS BLOOD.



Many times we think that because we are saved, in a living, loving relationship with the LORD, that we are supposed escape the pain that comes with life. No one ever said that, we are supposed to do is lean on Father God, He is the Healer and He knows the whats, whys, and when pain is going to come our way. Sometimes, our pain is self-inflicted;



"How so you say?"

Well, I am glad you asked....

When we feel the gentle urging of Holy Spirit to tell us not to "go that way" or don't have a relationship with this person, or God tells us in HIS Word to "flee" certain things and not to have fellowship with a certain group of people, and we ignore those instructions, we often find ourselves in a place of consequences that involves...you guessed it! PAIN! That's not to say, that all pain is a result of our own actions. The death of a loved one, lay-offs (bad economy) which in turn can contribute to financial ruin oftentimes leads to depression. While the affected person withdraws, they're unaware of the effect it has on those around them. Anger, rejection, neglect etc are emotions that are very familiar to the loved ones of those suffering from emotional pain/depression.

Proverbs 15:13b (God's Word Translation) says:

'...but with a heartache comes depression.'

Emotional pain and depression tend to go hand in hand. While some are able to seek help, be it spiritually or professionally, others are consumed to the point of taking their own lives. The Bible says in Psalms 30:5b:
'...weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning.'

Contrary to the unwittingly dangerous advice many of us have given in our younger years, don't cry-suck it up-it's not that bad, it is ok to cry according to the Word of God. We do and should cry in our dark period, but we should also know that our time of sadness is temporary, as joy is soon to follow. Depending on the circumstances, joy'll come sooner for some than it will others-but the focal point is in knowing joy is coming!!

So what to do?
COMMUNICATE!! Scream, talk, shout, write it down-just communicate. At times, it's easier to tell a stranger about our personal struggles than it is to a family or friend. If that's true with you, seeking a counselor, pastor, or a Holy Spirit-filled Christian whose life bears fruit of the love of God is ok. You can even yell at God, He will never do you like people can do you because they may take offense. The Father doesn't take offense and HIS shoulders are big enough to handle you getting a good yell and cry out. The Word of God says "My God shall supply all your need... - Philippians 4:19
He is unlimited in ways to provide, comfort, teach and love us.

To be continued...